She Ain't A Father
Today is Father's Day around the world, the time set aside to honor men who have children and have done their shared duty in parenting them. Unfortunately, this sacred and honored holiday has become a time to ridicule and belittle an important role in a child's life.
It has become a yearly ritual for many to pinpoint the absence of fathers in the homes, especially within the black community. Maybe it is out of frustration that this behavior started, but it has become a ridiculous and destructive midset for single parent homes that are lead by women.
We have elevated mothers to a role they were never created to occupy, nor can they ever fulfill. No matter how many times a mother reads books such as How To Think Like A Man, a mother can never think as a father. She can never comprehend what it means to be a man or a father. Period!
We have degraded Father's Day to a day to day to shout out our disapproval of the grow lack of fathers in the home or those who continue in their responsibilities despite separation from the mother. However, this day should never be about celebrating mothers.
If most women, and their children, who celebrate this ridiculous nonsense would be honest, they would have to admit that there are men who have given of themselves, taken from their families to step in to that roll figure of father. Instead of drawing attention to the missing father, single mothers would do well in celebrating the men who have been a father figure to their children.
I've seen some mothers, and even adult children, makes this day about how they stood in the stead of the missing father in the home, while forgetting that they did not raise their children alone. They have chosen to focus on the absence of the father instead celebrating the contribution of the men who were there to help them out.
Unfortunately, the church world has been a leader in this ugly lie. However, the more we give honor to this lie we feed the anger, frustration, and bitterness that many women pass on to their children and continue a horrible cycle instead of healing the family.
Today, I won't we be honoring any women, no matter how much they gave to their children. That day was in May. Today it's about celebrating the fathers, and the men who have stood in the place of those men who decided to relenquish the roll of fatherhood ...So Happy Father's Day
It has become a yearly ritual for many to pinpoint the absence of fathers in the homes, especially within the black community. Maybe it is out of frustration that this behavior started, but it has become a ridiculous and destructive midset for single parent homes that are lead by women.
We have elevated mothers to a role they were never created to occupy, nor can they ever fulfill. No matter how many times a mother reads books such as How To Think Like A Man, a mother can never think as a father. She can never comprehend what it means to be a man or a father. Period!
We have degraded Father's Day to a day to day to shout out our disapproval of the grow lack of fathers in the home or those who continue in their responsibilities despite separation from the mother. However, this day should never be about celebrating mothers.
If most women, and their children, who celebrate this ridiculous nonsense would be honest, they would have to admit that there are men who have given of themselves, taken from their families to step in to that roll figure of father. Instead of drawing attention to the missing father, single mothers would do well in celebrating the men who have been a father figure to their children.
I've seen some mothers, and even adult children, makes this day about how they stood in the stead of the missing father in the home, while forgetting that they did not raise their children alone. They have chosen to focus on the absence of the father instead celebrating the contribution of the men who were there to help them out.
Unfortunately, the church world has been a leader in this ugly lie. However, the more we give honor to this lie we feed the anger, frustration, and bitterness that many women pass on to their children and continue a horrible cycle instead of healing the family.
Today, I won't we be honoring any women, no matter how much they gave to their children. That day was in May. Today it's about celebrating the fathers, and the men who have stood in the place of those men who decided to relenquish the roll of fatherhood ...So Happy Father's Day
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